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Pushing0the0Throttle 33, Female, Connecticut, USA - 1,568 views

19

Aug 2007
6:41 PM EDT

so yesterday i was out shopping. which really sucked cause its not my thing but it's for clothes so i needed to go. any way so i'm at the store and some 32- 37 year old woman with short hair highlighted and spiked ( nice cut) started talking to me. now it you have ever been to PTown Cape Cod MA then you know what this women really looked like. i know that is stereo typing but that is the only way i know to describe her. now getting to my point she started to flirt with me and then hit on me and so like the idiot i am i go and kindly flirt with her. so now i am 24 hours later even more creeped than i was before. what is stranger is that it was enjoyable to be flirting with her even though she even said that she was from out of state i still dont know. ok bed for me and early rise i have and must concur.

Heaven2002 41, Female, Washington, USA - 1,634 views

20

Jul 2007
11:48 PM PST

My Uncle Ramir has been my inspiration. He works hard in everything he does and refuses to settle for just average. I admire his courage to make everyday count. He teaches me that through hard times, never settle and always work hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I sometimes may loose the light, but thinking back to everything he has been through and has prevailed, it gives me courage and hope that one day, soon enough, I will see the light again.

amylamb 51, Male, Ohio, USA - 2,128 views

20

Jul 2007
5:57 PM EDT

the person that i admire the most is my best friend she is a person that reaches out to everyone and helps everyone i am like that to a certain extent but i am alittle differnt i dont give as much cause i have been hurt in the past and i tend to stay away from people i dont get close to people

dunamis 54, Male, Australia - 27,507 views

02

Jun 2010
5:14 PM WST

men v women. unrealistic expectations

Seems, my wife thinks that being a man, means being a dog - literally.

Had these very exposing discussions last night with wife.

I postulated that there are characteristics in which men and women differ. I'm not talking physiology or biology, I'm talking more emotionally and socialogically. All humans possess traits and characteristics to varying degrees, irrespective of gender. But I said that there are some characteristics that women display, on average, more often than men. And there are some human qualities and characteristics that men display, on average, more often than women. This is neither good nor bad, it just is. It's an observation that has been made after correcting for age, culture, economic situation etc.

It's important to note that the characteristics I'm talking about are neutral. They're amoral. They don't carry a "good" or "bad" classification.

To qualify, I can find examples men who are more sensitive that some women. I can find fine examples of men, who will display strongly, those characteristics which women display on average more often than men. I can find women who are more aggressive than some men. There are always examples you can point to, but we're talking bell curve's here and yes, the bell curve's overlap.

She went on and on that it was no excuse. But she must have misheard me. There wasn't an attempt to make excuses, I was just stating a well accepted and statistically proven fact.

After much discussion (more like torture) she agreed that there are differences between men and women. But, here's the kicker, it turns out she thinks that any differences between men and women can be overcome by proper nuture of boys and better education.

Her argument is that characteristics that women display on average more often than men can be attained just as often by men if they were brought up properly and educated. She used road rage and slavery as examples.

When I asked her how she characterised men, she basically described a dog. She basically said all men think about is sex and procreation. She muttered something about grabbing tits, leaving mess about the place, being dirty. There was mention of abuse in the murky mix too.

So it was revealing. What I think she's saying, is that men are basically inferior humans to women and that if you can educate and nurture them better, they will display those characteristics that women currently display on average, more often.

It saddens me that she thinks of men in such a dim view, because I am one.

The conversation started because I think that marriages are suffering under the weight of false expectations. Mass media over the last thirty years has portrayed both men and women in a light which elevates expectations. Women expect men to be basically bigger versions of .... women! Men now wear women's clothes, makeup, and manscaping is a burgeoning industry. We have bromances, we're urged to get in touch with our feminine side, be sensitive, caring, in touch with our feelings, and have long conversations. We're urged to shun "typical male behavior" which is now frowned upon as being neanderthal and somewhat less human. In other words, we need to connect left brain and right brain and become more emotional beings. If only building synapses was so easy!

Men seem to expect to marry the hottest babe (who of course never slept around) but is highly charged sexually and who will stay slim and gorgeous for the rest of their married lives. We only have to look at leading ladies of the big screen. They all seem to stay hot no matter how old, or how many babies they have (and if they do let themselves go, they're never offered any more roles). Take Demi Moore, or Madonna as an example. For goodness sake, even Grandma Cher is in some creepy way still hot. But the reality is that once young women have married it is hard to keep up with the hair, the fake tan, the nails, and keep off the weight. Post childbirth, it's a hard road. It seems only a tiny minority can stay slim after one or three kids. That's just reality.

But back to the expectations.... An extremely funny video by Perfect Italiano, has a fencing expert practicing his listening face when his woman is not around. He can fence and listen. He can paint and listen. He can cook and listen to all her problems, and urgers her to "go on and on and on". It's a total crackup, but it's only funny, because it's ripping off reality.

I think if we could just understand the other gender, and realise that no matter how hard you try, you probably won't shift the bell curves and to have realistic expectations of one another. On a personal level, if you want to have a more harmonious marriage, you have to get to know the other person. You've got to leave your expecations on the threshold. It's fine to have expectations when your dating... that helps you choose your mate. But after you marry, the best you can expect is for them to be... them.

And you can't change that. You have to seek to understand, but after understanding, then accept and then choose to want that. I'm not advocating tolerance here. That's one degree above contempt. I'm advocating that you understand what you have, and choose to want what you have.

Being blinded by expecations serves no-one. Disappointment is a heartbreaker and it's hard to turn around from disappointment-ville. Disappointment comes from unmet expectations. Wouldn't it be better to expect men to be men, and women to be women? wouldn't it be easier to just understand the person you are with, than to make an idol of your expectations and in the glasshouse of idealism in which it's only a matter of time before the rock of reality smashes it all around you?

Idealism is for youth. Realism with optimism and wisdom is for the mature.

Realistically, men are never going to become women in bigger bodies no matter how much education and nurture, their nature predisposes them to display certain characteristics on average more often that women and other's less often. It will always be that way. Expecting anything different is like the first sign of madness... doing the same thing and expecting different results. If you keep making males, you'll keep getting the same results - on average.

Men aren't unrefined boorish, second rate humans any more than women are. It's just that characteristics men display on average more often aren't desirable in our society, and characteristics women display on average more often are held up as being the pinnacle of humanity.

Why else would researchers be developing a nasal spray of oxytocin (the female hormone) that men can use to achieve greater empathy?prayt Why not just implement castration once family planning is over? Forget about vasectomies, just cut the testes out and the whole world would be a happier, more harmonious caring place to live.

1 comment(s) - 09:21 PM - 06/01/2010

lilmama 31, Female, South Dakota, USA - 4,019 views

06

Aug 2007
4:10 PM EDT

To my dad,

Daddy I love you and I miss you so much ma said your court date is comin up soon so good luck. Dad there is so much I wanna tell you but I cant cause I'm scared you'll tell ma and she can't know not now anyway. Dad me and Cory are going to get married, we decided if you can't be there when it happens Jerry will give me away (that is if he wants to) cause hes the closest thing I have to you right now. And I told Cory when I turn 18 we are going to come to the cities for the weekend and I'm going to come see you, cause thats all I want for my 18th birthday, and yea I know its still a while away shit 4 years but still just thought I would let you kow now cause only god knows when I will get to tell you this next, but I g2g before so one reads this Love ya 4life daddy

Love Always,

Daddys lil Girl

PrettyPrincess 25, Female, Oregon, USA - 2,342 views

21

Jul 2007
9:12 PM EDT

I would really like to have an online pen pal because I am kind of lonley this summer so could some one mabey chat with me please.

Thank You!

Tags: abbydoobers, I want a online friend.

3 comment(s) - 07:42 PM - 07/23/2007

TrueMe 44, Female, Wisconsin, USA - 2,274 views

25

Jul 2007
8:12 AM EDT

Once again I'm welmed up into confusion. Which way do I go? This past year in school, I told a boy that I had feelings for him. He also had the same feelings... and you get what happened. But he wasn't ready to 'ask me out' yet. My friends were suspicious and nudged him to talk to me once n' awhile. He never did. I just thought he was shy. One night when talking online, he said it. He said "I love you." This caught me off guard. Did I feel this way too? I didn't say it back. Again, about a month later, he said those words again. "I love you." I said it back. I meant it. The day after the last day of school came. We had a dance and lock-in in our school. It was time for us to finally get together. Nothing was happening.... the dance was cut short (no slow dances) and we went straight to the lock-in. During a hide n seek game thing, I pulled him aside and asked him why he wasn't talking to me... more of ignoring me. We held hands as he "explained". Our first moment together. And.. our last. About a month into the summer, not seeing him, he decided to say we were 'over.' What I don't understand, is why. We were NEVER together, we BARELY talked, but yet he kept telling me that he LOVED me, and that he was so happy that I liked him.... Things just got messed up. My friends pressured him too much. Now I'm left. Confused. Who cares though? It's just my life. Just my dream. Gone.

Peyton 25, Female, Texas, USA - 4,548 views

21

Mar 2009
7:01 PM EDT

Song for me and you

Now you are the enemy...

�Song for me and you

You left with out a goodbye

And now I cant help but wonder why...

My heart is lost in a puddle of tears

So now I have no choice but to face my fears...

With everyday that passes bye

I wonder how I bought those lies...

How could you ever do this to me?

I never thought you would be the enemy...

If only I had known what was to come

Then maybe I wouldn’t be so dumb...

Soon I will let you go away

I probably should have a while 'go...

Unlike those childhood fairytales

This one ends in betrayal...

Tags: By me not you!

6 comment(s) - 11:43 PM - 04/03/2009

Karrol Elizabeth 32, Female, Wyoming, USA - 1,367 views

24

Jul 2007
4:12 PM EDT

Things happen for a reason, I just haven't figured out the reason to some of the things.

What do you do when you are the new girl in town. Nothing really right? How can you go from having the perfect life with your friends and sports to knowing no one. Thats how I feel. I have just moved to Casper yesterday. My best friend is now my Computer, I know noone in this town and prey never will. School starts in August seems like a decade away.

Of couse everyone has their own styles. I'm one of the girls that doesn't have styles I go with the flow. Sometimes gets me in binds.

Tags: ???

angel3811 43, Female, Ohio, USA - 1,843 views

19

Apr 2009
8:35 AM CDT

i really miss him

i raelly miss him so much do u ever get over the loss of someone u love so much??? i should have never gotten married in the first place before i dealt with the loss of jon i loved him more than anything and we were happy together then all my happiness and joy was stolen from me when jon tragicaly commited suicide. i don't think it ever get's easier although people try to tell u it does i just wish it didn't hurrt sooo bad but hopefully someday i can get over all the pain and the hurt and the feelings� of how he'll never get to see his daughter god please help me i miss him sooooo much he's always in my thoughts and i always wonder what might have been !!! does the pain ever stop??? should i have gotten some kind of grief counceling??? now how do i tell his daughter about him the daughter he wanted more than anything and the daughter he never knew he had because i found out i was pregnant 3 weeks after his funeral i reallly and trully wanted to die from the pain of loosing him and even though it's been since dec 03 since he died it's still not any easier i love jon soooooooooooo much someone help me please im going crazy i should love my husband lke he loves me but i can't why why cant i love him the way he's meant to be loved is it because i can't let go and go on??????????????

6 comment(s) - 09:39 AM - 05/03/2009

justus4 52, Female, Florida, USA - 2,599 views

05

Oct 2007
9:56 AM EST

Hey, check out this flash site. It is cool. Has a bunch of cool artwork there. Or don't....whatever.

http://fubon.co.uk/

Love ya!,
Ursula

TremblingAngel 33, Female, Ohio, USA - 2,579 views

25

Sep 2007
7:26 PM EDT

Well I'm currently watching "Dog The Bounty Hunter." *Smiles* It'd be so cornsome (awesome) to do that. Ehh... I might considered it one. Like... when I have muscles...

*Hears Thunder* Okay... so... anyway... I tend to forget things. A lot. Haha! Uhm, I'm from Ohio in the USA. I was asked that question on one of the sites. *Keeps Hearing Thunder* It sounds like it's going to bad! *Hears More* Of course I live right by a reservoir so it's going to be even worse because of the water. *Shudders* I love thunderstorms... unless they're terribly bad. *Checks The Weather Channel's Website* Oh yeah... the storm is like a few miles away. Haha! Scary...

Oh! One thing I want to touch on is names I'll call people. I call people "hun, dear, dearie, sweetie, darling" and so on and so forth. I call everyone those. So if you're a guy and I call you "darling," it's okay. Haha! I'm not hitting on you or anything. This goes for everyone. Trust me, I've already found my special someone.

Oh! So I was in the bathroom today and I happened to look out the window and saw a squirrel. Squirrels are awesome. When they hop around it's like a wave. Hehe! *Giggles* Oh! And their tails are amazingly awesome! Yes, yes, very cornsome indeed! I want one as a pet but it would probably attack me in my sleep. Haha! No doubt about it. Actually... there could be. But... ehh... yeah. Anyway... we have some pretty awesome squirrels around here. They like to climb up a tree... drop off of it for many many feet, until they land on the bird house. Then they eat the food. Haha! They also like to climb up the pole to it. Mom greased it with something before and it was just so freakin' funny to watch them climb up it. Haha! They would get like half-way up it and fall. Haha! Squirrely, squirrely, squirrely...

*Sighs* Anyway... I want to go to sleep soon. I'm quite tired, and I need my sleep. Hehe! I've been so tired lately. Once I get to sleep it's hard to get me out of it. For once I have deep sleep. But I hope that'll happen again tonight. Haha!

So school was alright today. I had Pre-Calc homework. *Dies* I also have Chemistry homework but I'm saving that for lunch. Haha! Oh! And, of course, today at lunch, the machine ate my money. Yep! I wanted some water but the flappin' machine was jammed and I didn't see it until it was too late. Nice, right? So the school will basically give me my money back whenever the dude gets there. *Shrugs And Sighs* C'est la vie...

I talked to my best friend, Lindsey, today. It's been a while since we go to different schools now. *Sighs* I miss her. We'll have to get together soon, though. French class isn't the same without her. *Sighs Again* Then again, nothing is.

*Sighs Again For The God Knows How Many Times* I think it's time for me to go to bed. Ciao, dolls! Oh yeah! That's something else I say! Oh! One last thing! If you don't like the fact that I'm engaged to a girl, then don't read my posts. One person already said something about it on one site. Thank you. Good night, everyone. See my first entry if you wish to contact me or anything. *Smiles*

~Natasha

Tags: Squirrel, Squirrels, Squirrely, TremblingAngel

need4nos 29, Male, Austria - 1,609 views

27

Jul 2007
2:41 PM EST

2day i got my diary licence and helped the van helson twins.

Blayne 30, Female, Arizona, USA - 3,201 views

29

Jul 2007
4:39 PM EDT

ok i thot this thing wood b really cool but its not cuz i dont get 2 talk 2 any 1 !!!!

P.S. write me!!!! I want to talk 2 some 1 under 15!!

Tags: Hello?????

arandall 41, Female, Ohio, USA - 4,479 views

27

Apr 2009
1:54 AM EDT

Hunger

Right now I am freaking hungry. I don't know how to deal with it without eating. Yesturday I got so hungry that when I was done with dinner I was still hungry. Today I think it will be the same way with breakfast. Dave was in the living room so I could not get anything to eat when I got up. I don't want to deal with him. I tried laying on my stomach on my bed. That worked for awhile. now I am out of options.

1 comment(s) - 10:50 AM - 04/27/2009

ramoody 65, Male, Kansas, USA - 2,586 views

01

Aug 2007
3:04 PM CST

The office was very calm today. Most of the staff was on vacation, however, there were several new faces wandering the hallways,must be new faculty. I was in their shoes last year.

1 comment(s) - 10:50 PM - 08/07/2007

ladylyn501 63, Female, Texas, USA - 3,953 views

21

Jan 2010
6:03 AM EDT

UNDER WATCHFUL EYES AND EARS

I agree with that quote. That is why I am so confuse by how people are so eager to throw you a life line of gestures of creative points to use while all that is good it won't make you feel adequate about yourself at least not me because I am a person who's goals has to be my own dreams and activated by me and worked as I see fit and with help if needed, or if I ask and one agrees to assist me. However, I do believe that money is a mere reward to yourself after working, I also believe that feeling good about yourself and the work you do is in it self an reward to, but what good is it if someone decides to network your goals/dreams as if it was theirs ?… I also believe that feeling good about yourself comes from knowing your character and that you have accepted who you are. Have to go for now kids are up. Oh! One other thing money has only been therapy for me lately, until I figure/get my way out of this wet paper bag. {I was lost/off track}......................

�� THANKS FOR YOUR EARS!!!!!!

�� LADYLYN OUT 01/21/10; 7:01 AM

Tags: REAL TALK, SERIOUS

zacsgirl27 34, Female, Tennessee, USA - 1,908 views

13

Oct 2007
7:11 PM EDT

Travel Journal; Restaurant Blog: Destin, Florida

Tuesday: Home
Wednesday: Fudpucker's
Thursday: Joe's Crabshack
Friday: Hooter's
Saturday: Ordered in Dominoe's

Wednesday: At Fudpucker's we saw the alligators but didn't feed them. We didn't buy any t-shirts. I signed the wall and the table so people will know that I was there.

Thursday: At Joe's Crabshack Alyssa, Kelsey, Kaitlyn, and I went out on the playground and played tag. It was fun beacuse there were so many places to hide in. I bought a cute t-shirt.

Friday: At Hooter's the boys couldn't keep their tounges in their heads. They were VERY happy with our waittress. Brandon bought a Hooter's t-shirt and Christain bought a Hooter's calnedar. Afterwards we went to the Go-kart track. The boys rode the wooden track and then they rode the family track with me. Christain got in front of me and wouldn't let me pass. Finally I got in front of him and wouldn't let him pass.

Tags: Travel Journal

jmw 39, Female, New York, USA - 1,750 views

02

Aug 2007
10:06 AM EDT

hey everyone my name is jenn i live in elmira heights ny w/ my husband im starting a journal b/c it will help my control my emotions and be a better person to control my attitude i dont handle stress very well and i really need to control that. so let me tell you a little about me i am 21 yrs old but i will be 22 this month on the 21st of aug ( Happy Birthday to me) i graduated from waverly high school in 2004 and i went to ebi for business but i never finished school bc my car at that time the engine dropped out of it and didnt hv a car.But now i am going bck to school this october for paralegal. I love bowling w/ my husband and my friends and i love going to the movies and just chilling at home. I do wrk but i rather not tell you where i wrk bc i might have to cll you one day and i dont wnt to be put in a awkard position . i absolutely hate drama and dont want to be apart of it in no means. im not looking for a relationship on here bc like i said im married. people may not like what i have to say be thats just me i'll be straight up w/ you. oh yeah by the way i ABSOLUTELY HATE LIARS..... alot of ppl say that im stuck up or a bitch but honestly i have high standards and i really stick to them. i dont judge anybody or talk about anybody bc there is no point of it it's stupid. My theory is always keep a smile on your face bc it makes them wonder what you're thinking.. but i do have a bad attitude and i will let you know if you piss me off. im not a person to be walked all over and that will never happen well everyone i have to go if you want to tlk or have anything to comment leave me a message

tikie10 30, Male, Florida, USA - 1,384 views

10

Aug 2007
7:25 PM EDT

If i was old and my dream would of came true, the thing id be most happy about having done would be making my dream come true. Im sorry but i cant tell you my dream.

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