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4d9rfan4life 57, Female, Arizona, USA - 15 entries

Jul 2012
3:23 AM CST

Taking Control

The second date that Shawn and I had went pretty much as it did the first time, unfortunately, for a relationship sense in terms.� However the difference this time was that I went away with a clearer understanding of not only who he is and what I am capable of accepting on a personal level but that we truly can only be friends at this time in his life.

He's very much stuck in place with his personal life, not something worth finding fault in, but he's not ready to move on, that much is very clear and to continue pursuing something with him would only prove to be something that he would be pushed into, and that is not my style.

He was married for 16 years.� They have been apart for only 2.� He has a lot of marriage ghosts that either he doesn't know how to get past, or he is just not willing to move forward.� He also has a young son who seems to understand the divorce issue, but is very adament that neither of his parents can date or even talk to someone of the opposite sex.� That is another issue that Shawn needs to not only work through for himself, but he needs to help his son too.

At this time I have to stick to my guns and insist that any further contact be strictly in a friendship manner.� He is a great person, despite the issue's that we dealt with while I was there, I really enjoy our time together.�

He called me this afternoon while I was out and about stating that he wanted to talk about my decision.� By the time that I was able to actually call him back, he was unable to talk as his son was with him.� So tomorrow he is suppose to be calling me, what he has to say is completely unknown, but I will listen to what he has to say and go from there.

Tags: Date, Friendship, Moving On, Relationship

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4d9rfan4life 57, Female, Arizona, USA - 15 entries

Jun 2012
2:25 AM CST

The conversation

So despite that Shawn and I seemed to hit it off, both on the phone and then in person, we seemed to be heading in the opposite direction.

We were so comfortable with each other that it felt as though we were best friends for many many years, to the point that we somehow managed to keep from crossing a line, one that neither of us put down, but obviously was there.

So for the last week, contact between us has been sporadic.� So I finally asked him the other day, what's going on?� To my surprise, he was wondering the same thing.� So after deciding that perhaps we are just better off as friends, he totally turned the tables on me, something that no one, no man in my life has ever done.� He is pleading his case on why we should give it another shot, a second date.

In the movie, Jerry Maguire, that scene where he is told to 'Shut Up', 'You had me at Hello'... now I get the exact depth of that saying.� I have never been so speechless in my life, I have never been so flattered.

Tags: Date, Friend, Second, Shawn

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4d9rfan4life 57, Female, Arizona, USA - 15 entries

Jun 2012
7:23 PM CST

Date with Shawn....

So our date has come and gone, it was an awesome time, great evening, great company, what more can I ask for?

After meeting up at BullShooters in Phoenix and playing a few rounds of pool, we headed over to his house for a barbecue and some swimming.�

Although this situation would never have taken place prior, I found myself feeling very comfortable with him, it is actually a very nice change of pace for me.

So for now, he is going to call me when he gets home from work.� I hope that we make another set of plans to see each other real soon, I really thoroughly enjoyed myself and I think he did too.

Tags: Club, Date, Friend, Laughter, Shawn

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4d9rfan4life 57, Female, Arizona, USA - 15 entries

Jun 2012
8:24 PM CST

In a few hours.... wow!

So am I getting nervous that the date between Shawn and myself is less than a day away... surprisingly, no!

I think that since we took the opportunity to talk as much as possible, putting everything on the table that was asked, I think that makes the pending meeting not such a nervous or stressful thing.

Don't get me wrong, there are going to be nerves in play just on the idea that we have never met before, but I believe it is going to go real well.

As for the meeting place, it is at a very well known and semi-busy place, even for a Sunday.

As for Colin.... you know I haven't heard from him since sending that email in which I believed it was best for us to go our seperate ways.� I hope that he is okay, I really do, but at this time, I couldn't really tell you.

Tags: Club, Date, Friend, Laughter, Meet, New, Shawn

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