questioningeverything's Journal

Jan 2007
11:04 AM PST

So I am a single female. Today just about 50% of women aren't married or living with a significant other in this country. This is either the scariest fact or the best fact which I have heard in a really long time. I am not the average 19 year old college student. I have never been drunk in my life, and I don't really understand why people do it. ( I am not a judgemental person though, do what you want to do. Some people are the most entertaining people to be around when they have had a few.) Anyway, I am not someone to wear slutty clothes, for more than one reason. I love to just hang out, laugh, and have a real conversation about something that actually matters. I have been to my fair share of parties and some have been fun some not so much. I am the normal girl in the fact that I have a perfect wedding picked out and know what kind of dress I want. I am not dependent on this day ever coming though. I think that I will be able to function on my own without a significant other. Although I believe society places a lot of being a married women and finding "the one" I do think it is not just society telling us something. It is human nature to want someone to have that kind of companionship with. So that fact I said, it is good because slowly more and more women are doing what they want. On the other hand it means that there are a lot of people who are alone in this world, without that one person...that person who makes you feel like the world revolved around you. I don't think they will complete me because I want to be a complete person before I think seriously about getting married. They are a new best friend to have. I have learned a lot over the past few years about my self and others. I have seen what bringing a boyfriend can do to a relationship even between the closest friends. I have seen what happens when that friend who you have complained about not having someone and just about everything else gets that boy. As the saying going chicks before dicks and bros before hoes are just words that rhyme and it just so happens that they rhyme when you switch the words around. I have never experienced having to choose between a boyfriend or my friends. I hope that my friends will win 90% of the time, but the more I watch my closest friends fall into relationships I don't know what I will do. I think the same happens with men (they are considered whipped). I had a reassuring conversation today though. It scares me that I have never been in a long-term relationship when I am only 19. There are some nights I go to bed and wish that there was someone there (not in a sexual way) but just someone to fall asleep with. There are some guys that I may flirt with or look at and say I could date them. When I thought about these guys today, the reality is that I don't want to date them. I would like to become better friends with some of them. Hang out with them more, but not date them. None of my friends at school are in relationships. We are all happy. Today a group of us got together and went to a dollar theater. (Stranger than fiction--good movie) It was just fun. It doesn't matter if you are dating someone. I am too young to worry about that part of the rest of my life. It doesn't matter who I am dating or not dating now. I am having fun. I am enjoying life, and although there may be those nights or those days which kissing someone or having that flirtation with someone may be in the back of my mind, it is not running it. I don't need a man to make me complete or happy like so many people think. At home, I am becoming the single friend slowly but surely, but if that's how it is going to be that is ok. As long as we are there for each other when it counts I can (work on) accepting that.

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Gender / Age: Female, 37

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About Me: I have big dreams and I want to accomplish as many of them as possible. I am still naive and believe I can make a difference in this big world we live it.