madhousewife's Journal

I would have to say moving away to a different state and then to a different country. Having been raised very strictly, but spoiled the move mad me realize I could do things without help. I could run home, or have people come to me and help.

I was an army wife! The first time we went to Germany my husband picked me up from the airport, pretty much dropped me in a village two towns away from base and went to the field for a week. We had no phone, I didn't have a license(yet), spoke no german, had two small kids, and knew no one. I was scared to death!! Not to mention I had just watched the movie about the holocaust and couldn't help but wonder if those people out my window had been involved.

I got my license, I met other spouses, I learned where things were, and I learned enough german to get me by. I learned to do for and by myself.

I think it is the reason for a lot of marriage break ups, women getting more independant. Don't misunderstand, it is a good thing to be independant, but we all need to feel needed. I told my husband I don't need a man in my life to do everything for me, but I do need him in my life to love me, have my back, and be supportive. I like to think he needs me the same way.