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Dec 2010
5:48 PM EST
   

to move or not move

I have been living here in Colorado Springs for almost 3 years now. I like the climate. I like the mountains. I like the people. They are a little on the conservative side for me but they seem to be very nice people. I have been living with my daughter and her family. They have turned out to not be so nice. Maybe nice isn't the word I'm looking for. They are critical, judgemental, controlling and very enmeshed. I didn't know how co dependent my daughter had become. I hadn't been around her for awhile until I moved in. Big surprise. So now I am going to move out either into an apartment in the city in Januuary or relocate back to Pittsburgh from whence I came. I don't like the summers there because of the humidity. The people are a better fit due to it being a more liberal part of the country. I also have a daughter and a son there who I love and relate to better. So I would be able to see them regularly and not see my daughter here in Colorado on a regular basis. Family is important to me so that is a priority and Colorado Springs is a family oriented area but the family I have there, I don't wish to see often and spend my holidays with. They are difficult. I have thrived here in Co, physically. I have great doctors which I didn't have in Pittsburgh. This is important to me since I am 68 and have some problems that need taking care of. I don't have much money and in this area, the average income is $100 grand or more a year. I'm living on a very limited income but I can manage taking advantage of senior benefits. My son and daughter will help out a little. I want to live independently. Living with my daughter and family has not been good for me emotionally. To be fair, it hasn't been easy for her either but it's been worse for me. I don't know what to do. I go over the pros and cons every day; it's driving me nuts. I just can't seem to reach a decision. If i had my druthers I would want to live here in Co with my son and daughter who live in Pa and ship ship the daughter who lives here back to Pittsburgh. If I could wave my magic wand, that's what I'd do. Alas, the world doesn't run on magic so I'm stuck weighing the pros and cons in order to make the right decision. And until I make a final decision, this is where I'm stuck. Any advice is welcome.
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  • Username: jsiegel
  • Gender / Age: Female, 81
  • Location: USA - Colorado
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