In my youth, I was not aware that my expectations for others were set too high...thus, I had very few friends. But now that I am older, and I hope, wiser, I know that expecting too much from others leaves one alienated. Having high expectations of others, means having a self-serving agenda of my own, that I would like my friends, loved ones to adhere to against their own will. That would not be the way to honor those I care about.
However, I do expect to be treated with respect where I have also done so. Accepting people in their entirety is a freeing and friend-keeping way to see others...but to accept negative behaviors that are abusive or intrusive to my overall health and well-being is not an option.